In this post, I will be exploring what is considered a ‘professional’ standard Tinder profile and how much more ‘swipeable’ I become. ‘We argue whether online relationships or face-to-face relationships between two people are better worse or just different’ (Boyle 2003), personally, I find it strange that putting certain pictures of yourself on an app, makes you more likely to find love. But that’s what qualified Tinder professionals claim. Much like, Julie Spira, who is ‘America’s Top Online Dating Expert’ and has been for 20 years. Julie provides one-to-one advice (for a fee) on how to ‘how to flirt on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, master the art of swiping right on Tinder’, but recently, she starred in a video with Buzzfeed, giving some pointers for how to make your profile more ‘swipeable’.
- No group photos if it can be avoided (Spira 2017). Above is a breakdown of my profile and as it’s clear, the fourth picture is a photo of a friend and I. Although this isn’t a ‘group photo’ , it’s still not a photo of just me, so I changed this photo to another selfie.
2. Don’t hide behind your sunglasses (Spira 2017)- In my profile, I am not wearing any sunglasses, but I did look to see if you could see all my face in every picture, which meant getting rid of picture number two, because although I wasn’t wearing sunglasses, I was not making eye contact.
3. Show interests and places you would like to go (Spira 2017)- In my profile, a majority of my photos are taken in my bedroom or my garden. I had hardly any photos of me in my favourite places and if I did, they were candid and I wasn’t looking at the camera. However, I enjoy gardening and caring for plants, so I changed one of the two similar selfies to one with me with a plant.
4. No animals- again, I had to change another one of my photos because it was a selfie of me and my dog.
5. Be confident in your bio, don’t apologise! (Spira 2017)- my bio from my last experiment was ‘Second year of uni, just looking for someone to talk too’, which doesn’t come across as confident at all. However, Julie Spira also says that you should ask a question in your bio because ‘When they see that question mark, it is giving them an instruction’ (Spira 2017). So I changed my bio too ‘Second year of uni, I love reading, writing and dogs. Are you more of a dog or a cat person? The answer better be dog’.
Following the advice of, ‘If you want to have the best experience on Tinder, use it at 9 p.m’ (Beres 2016) again, I began my experiment following the same routine as last time, waiting ten minutes between the 30 swipes.
Previously when I did this, using my old profile, I received 7 matches and 2 messages after swiping through the first 30 people. But this time around, I received 22 matches and 3 messages. The very first message I received was addressing my question in my bio, with the answer being ‘dogs all day x’.
With my old profile, by this point, I had 15 matches and 7 message. But with my new updated profile, I had received 34 matches and 10 messages. Again, the majority of my messages were about the ‘dog or cats’ question but also questioning about my old places of work, that appeared in my bio because it is connected to Facebook.
I finished swiping at 9.20, with 56 matches and 17 messages. What I found this time around, apart from getting more messages and matches, I also got more ‘super-likes’ than before.
It is clear from the results that I received more matches with my edited profile, however, why was this? ‘We can change the appearance of our partners without their knowledge- realising of course, that they could be doing the same to us- seems to cut out the passion of a real, fallible lover’ (Boyle 2003), just because I have changed my photos, the angles at which they were taken and who featured in them, this apparently changed how attractive other people found me. Does this mean I am giving an untrue image of myself? Majority of the photos I have used are selfies, my potential dates have no idea what I like or dislike just by my photos. The only information they can gather is that I prefer dogs over cats. The advice of not having any group photos I feel really highlights how lazy online dating has become. It takes a man 0.3 seconds to decide whether to swipe right, so eliminating group pictures meant they didn’t have to spend un-needed time trying to deduce which one I was. ‘There is a widely accepted idea that people are withdrawing from society into their own homes, and inside their homes, they are withdrawing in front of a screen’ (Boyle 2003), using Tinder made me feel really passive, although I was only using it for an experiment. If I used it in my day-to-day life, I could see myself becoming more uninterested in people themselves. I could easily find another date, as Tinder has hundreds of different people waiting who happened to swipe right on my picture so I wouldn’t need to like or talk to someone if I didn’t want too, ‘if a member violates the rules, or even get’s slightly boring, you don’t have to listen or talk to them- you can just switch them off’ (Boyle 2003).
- A Love Expert Updated Our Tinder Profiles-Buzzfeed. 2016. Julie Spira. June 17, 4.00. Available from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2ga0rQBSzM&t=154s
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